True seduction is the opposite of sex.

True seduction is the opposite of sex.

I love everything about seduction. It's about getting every ounce of juice out of every experience. And if you rush things, you can miss the best part. Seduction is all about savoring.

This morning I got inspired by a burlesque teacher who was talking about seduction. Burlesque is all about seduction and not about sex.  "It's interesting that we associate seduction with sex, when in fact, true seduction is the opposite of sex. Sex is when desire is met. Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of desire, it is about the thrill of the desire itself.

 It is the game that is played as the desire comes closer, and closer, and closer, and being able to maintain that tension of wanting for a long, long time".

"Seduction" is the first cousin of "Anticipation", and it's something that we enjoy on many levels.

 


Living a happy, juicy life means extending the pleasure and we can do that with learning how to enjoy and practice seduction and anticipation.

Learn to say "No"!  Women do this all the time, Holding out for what they want!
The ability to say "NO". No can be a very sexy word.  We all know that setting boundaries and saying no to certain situations is important and sometimes essential. But have you ever thought about "no" as being sexy? Try experimenting with your "no" and see how it feels.

How does it feel to hold the power and value yourself? How does it feel to withhold something that someone else wants? It's an interesting experience. Try it just to feel it even if you want to say "Yes".

Learn to consciously slow things down!
The key to seduction is to slow things down. How slowly does that fabulous burlesque dancer take off her gloves? She takes her time with every finger! I tend to think that things are not moving fast enough in my life. I want things now. But when I turn my thoughts to how I can seduce myself with ideas or possibilities - everything changes shape.

If I slow things down, I am able to notice that if I am not moving towards something that I thought that I wanted in my life then perhaps I am not truly seduced by it.

Try looking at things through the lens of seduction. What is seducing you? And how can you slow down everything in your life so that you can anticipate every delicious encounter,  giving your lover pleasure. Can you make him/her whimper with desire? Can you move that slowly?

Seduction is not just something to be done with other people, but with everything we want in life.

Where a "no" can be equally as satisfying as a "yes". And don't get me wrong —I love a great big YES! But a "no" just means that there is a possibility that there is more fun to be had. Savor everything, and use the joy of seduction as a path to pleasure.

What ever you are doing that is about to give you pleasure, slow it down and give it very short wait. I would love to hear how your experiment with seduction goes!